Your divorce survival kit

Stephanie L. Mahdavi Divorce, Divorce Westlake Village

While divorce is often a difficult excursion into the unknown, it can be survived with the right tools. If you are getting divorced, don’t forget your survival backpack. It’s going to be a rocky journey but you will make it. If you ask a Westlake Village divorce attorney to accompany you in this journey, chances are you will be safer as they already know the way.

Be smart

This is the time for the brain to go before the heart. It will take a lot of hard work to have a smart divorce but remember it’s the foundation for a better future. Psychologists say getting a divorce is one of the most emotionally painful experiences you will ever have in your life. But going through one it’s a sign you are alive and your heart it’s still beating. Just don’t let your emotions control you. Focus before making important decisions and be confident what’s coming is better than what’s left behind. You can’t understand it right now but it’ll all make sense with time. Change is often painful but very necessary for growth. Sometimes you need to think outside the box, expand your horizons and be free to create the life you have always wished for. If you and your spouse are not compatible and you just can’t see a future with him or her, move on and start afresh.

Keep your sanity

Some people are more expressive than others. If you are one of those who can’t keep your mouth shut that’s okay. Just remember, you are a winner and winners don’t whine. It’s fine to grieve just improve your pose and smile through. In other words, fake it until you make it! Surround yourself with positive people, therapists, priests, family, friends, as long as they bring good vibes. Time and a positive atmosphere are always the best healers.

Coping

The first step is becoming independent. That means slowly but progressively detaching from your ex-spouse. It’s a bit difficult at first but with the time you will become a master at it. You will eventually find other more interesting topics to talk about. Some topics are just not worthy of your time. Remember the past is called the past for a reason. Now it’s time you take control of your life and make smarter decisions.

New horizons

Nothing more beautiful than seeing a bird flying freely and lost on the horizon. It seems like the universe is limitless and there is no end to this journey we call life. This a time to move on and just like a free bird, fly to new horizons! Just remember nothing will happen unless you make it happen. There is a better life ahead but you must start cultivating it now. You may not reap the rewards immediately but you will start noticing small changes until one day you wake up to free skies.

When children are involved

This is a sensitive issue many divorcees face. It’s not the children’s fault that their parents can’t get along. However, children often blame themselves for such happenings. You will not be able to spend as much time with your child as before but make the best out of it. The best way for children to assimilate this process is by reinforcing it with positive actions. Go on a fun trip, do activities your children enjoy, and soon they will get used to the new arrangement. You will be surprised at how your children can adapt faster than you.

Pack and go

Now that you have already packed, it’s time to go! Call us today and we’ll explain the next steps to a successful divorce.

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