Divorce can disrupt your kids’ lives if you are not careful. As a good parent, you want your children to continue enjoying Twinkle Twinkle Little star and believing Santa Claus and fairies are real. It’s just not fair to children when their world falls apart because of some grow up’ decisions. Children crave stability. With the help of a Thousand Oaks divorce attorney you can make a smooth transition during your divorce and guard the stable environment you have built all these years.
Perhaps your children had a daily routine they enjoyed and now that your are planning for a divorce, they don’t play the same games or spend as much time with you as they used to. Remember children live in a small and fragile world. You are a very important part in it. Now that your child will get to live in two homes, it’s important that you and your ex-spouse try to keep consistency and more or less the same routine in both homes. Your ex is your partner and not your enemy. Children need both parents to grow up and become healthy adults.
When children visit two homes with different rules they get confused. Perhaps one parent allows them to play video games late at night while the other says they need to go to bed early and wake up early to go to school. Children only look at the now. They don’t understand their behavior can affect their future. When parents are able to work together as a team and provide the stability they crave, they will stop crying and acting out, particularly teens. Consistency will create a stable environment as they won’t have to deal with surprises that often.
This is the time most children hate because the fun is over. As a parent you need to encourage your children to wake up early and go to school. Treat them once in awhile for doing well at school. Try keeping them in the same school they have gone for years. It’s tempting to find a new school after a divorce but it won’t benefit your child. They have friends in school and teachers that understand their learning style. It’ll take time to build all that again.
A divorce will affect everyone in the family. Even the ones who are not affected will act like if they care. But children do care and they will miss the time spent with aunts, uncles and cousins. The more people get involved in your children’s lives the better. Children need this loving and healthy atmosphere when growing up.
Divorce is a stressful process but it doesn’t have to be that way. It should be a ticket to a new and happier life. Yes, the process can be emotionally painful and frustrating but with the help of a Thousand Oaks divorce attorney you will be just fine. Contact us today and find peace of mind.